BE STUDLEY PROJECT

The amalgamation of the spiritual, mental, physical and financial journey to become the best version of yourself.  In life, we have all settled into a routine.  The routine of complacency and truly not being happy, healthy or living that best life.  The Be Studley Project changes that mindset.  This insanely driven program is happening in real time and is the attempt to become the greatest version of ourselves.

I broke.  Physically, mentally, spiritually and financially, I broke.  Physically I was obese (yes, I was FAT) and a myriad of other health problems caught up to me.  I was a shell of the person I was.  The high school soccer and football player, the Marine, the coach to my children's sports teams.  I was a shell.  At the same time, I was mired in a divorce, custody battles, legal battles and I was severely depressed.  I am not even sure depressed is the right word.  More like, WEAK.  I was allowing emotions to dictate my every day and my very existence.  I had lost everything that mattered to me.  My wife, whom I met in high school and thought I would be with forever, was gone.  My children, whom I adore more than life itself, was caught up in a bitter custody battle.  I was hurting them and I knew it, but my behavior worsened and I became self destructive because I could not handle the emotions I was feeling.  To be fair, I am absolute in life and love.  So, after watching my mom and dad go through divorce and how that made me feel as a kid, I was all in on making my marriage work.  Unfortunately, I didn't live up to my end of the bargain and I take full responsibility for the marriage failing.  But, at the time, I wanted to blame her, blame others and I couldn't deal well with my emotions.  Which was crazy, because I was a Marine and worked in high pressure jobs in the private sector and carried myself perfectly.  But, this emotion and pain was different.  I could only keep thinking of my mom and dad.  It all was too much.  Mentally, I had grown weak.  I wasn't the same person.  I was soft and everything hurt me.  Honestly, I was a little, well actually, a BIG BITCH!!!!   Financially, I was in ruins.  Having made over $1M before I was 30 I had nothing to show for it.  Yes, I had a big heart and gave away a lot of money, but what good was that now?   I resorted to faking it to please others and try to keep my marriage intact.  That didn't turn out well.  I hated myself and GOD for making me go through this.  I remember many nights, crying and begging GOD to take me.  But he didn't.  Years of pain and torment followed and it led me to Montana and working in a job I love with people I care about.  But, I was still diverting to my old ways.  Hiding my pain, hiding my truth and not facing myself in the mirror. THAT CHANGED.  December 22nd, I decided that I would not be anyone's BITCH any longer.  That for me, I had to push myself to a place that was dark and scary and didn't feel comfortable in.  I looked at the abyss.  It looked back at me and what I saw, scared me.  I didn't like the man I was.  Here at 46 years old, I was at the bottom of my journey.  Yes, by all accounts, I hit rock bottom years earlier, but for me, the bottom was what I was looking at that day.  I decided to win my life back, one small step at a time.  Physically, mentally, spiritually and financially, I was going to win life again.  So, I created Studley.  The act of being Studley, for me, means to step up, harden the mind, control emotions, become physically stronger and this has become spiritual for me.  I want to become closer to God, I want to experience pain and embrace suffering so that I can eventually experience happiness.  So I have set off on a journey of self discovery, and have committed to pushing myself to the most extreme physical, mental and emotional limits that I can.  I am all in and committed to 2024 as the year I take my life back. I will document the journey and I hope that it will inspire others to become the greatest version of themselves.  

Following a methodical plan that is happening in real time, the BE STUDLEY project will take you on a journey to change your body physically to become the best version of yourself.  Going from an out of shape, overweight adult to a finely tuned body will require patience, faith and the unwavering belief in the process.  Through the months that it will take, we document everything.  The belief in this process is real and once you commit, there is no turning back.  The commitment is just as vital as the actual follow through.  You must commit yourself fully to the belief that you will become that greatest version of yourself.  And, you must embrace pain.  It will be hard, it will be a daily grind.  The rewards are real though.

Mental fitness is just as important as physical fitness.  Actually, it is more important.  Mental toughness allows us the ability to control the mind.  When the mind says it's done, it is up to that mental toughness to say no, there is more to go.  We must learn to control the mind, control feelings and keep the emotional side in check. By hardening the mind, we teach ourselves that emotions are temporary and that all the pain, sadness, grief, happiness and other emotions shall to pass. Do not put much stake into them because they come and go.  Learn that the mind, once hardened, can push the body past the point of where you were and take you to places you never knew existed.  The biggest hurdle is the mental one.  Learn with me what it takes to become that best version of yourself and how I pick myself up from the depths of despair.  See if you can harden the mind to become the person that is willing to take on everything head on.  Learn to become Studley.  

I grew up believing in God, believing in Jesus and the fundamental side to faith, I always held onto.  At least I think, right?  You find yourself in positions and moments where the doubt is real and I am always taken to a few great quotes.  The first is "God gives his hardest battles to his strongest soldiers."  Man, have I had some battles.  Fuck, man, I would put my battles up against anyone's.  I will talk about them all during the 2024 transformation.  Some you will relate to, and some may scare the shit out of you.  But the battles my friends are real.  The second one is "The hardest souls are sent to the hardest places.".  I have endured a lot in my life, and I have been tested repeatedly.  I want to become the hardest of souls, ironclad in belief and faith.  I haven't always been that.  Now, I embrace the darkness, I fear no nothing in my life.  I have been to the gates of hell and I survived the greatest pits of despair.  I am stronger now and ready to embrace in greater detail, my relationship to GOD.  I want to find my purpose and as you start the Project, you will learn the relationship that you have not only with yourself, but always with something much bigger than you.  I want to examine all parts of my life to become the greatest version of me.